I’m going to share one of Tim’s best relationship tips here. I think of it as the What Can I Do Differently Technique. He’s used it countless times on me. I try to use it too, but I’m probably not as good at it as he is. I tend to sulk more. Tim sulks, too. I suppose sulking means you care, but it isn’t much fun.
Merriam Webster: EKPHRASIS, a literary description of or commentary on a visual work of art. Thanks to our lovely Write On Door County, our community has regular opportunities to try out ekphrastic writing. Writers are encouraged to sit with a work of art and write. Perhaps your community has something similar, or you might find an online workshop. I hadn't thought myself able to ekphrass. I thought ekphrasis was just for poets which I am not.
Tim and I were stunned by this rainbow that appeared Nov 12, 2021 right where I do a little mom ritual every morning. You can see Tim got out his fancy camera for this one. A few hours later the nursing home called to say that my mom was unresponsive and I needed to make a decision. What do these synchronicities mean? I have no idea.
My mom's message for today randomly chosen from her many journals: "Growing takes place just when you think nothing is happening. Intensity of bleakness just before something opens up. Things may have different rhythms. It may be months or years before a creative work emerges, surfaces. We grow by delays....
Want to knit stronger neurons? Crafts can help. Being in the zone, or a state of flow is the latest positive psychology terminology for having energized focus, full involvement and enjoyment. Although it is an ancient idea, entire books are now being written on this rather specific state of mind. Certain tasks may enable you to reach a state of flow. I propose that it is good brain exercise. Being in the flow is good for us. What puts you in a state of flow?
Do you hate certain sounds with a passion that you know is unreasonable? You might have misophonia. Greek for hatred of sound, "misophonia" is replacing previous labeling attempts such as Select Sound Sensitivity Syndrome and Sound-Rage. Misophonia is surprisingly common. It is an involuntary, visceral hatred or disgust felt when a particular "trigger" sound is heard. The heart may race. Classic physiological responses of involuntary alarm, rage, or nausea might kick in.
Last week I experienced my first opportunity to try small-scale, personal fundraising following a family crisis. Prior to this, my psyche had lugged around two uncomfortable misconceptions concerning charitable giving. These happily vanished. This has made it easier for me to give, going forward. I’d like to share what I learned.
If you have ever been held captive by a talking person, you have been pinned. The standard Pinner holds you firmly in place with this distinctive zombie-like stare. While pinned, you are force fed a steady stream of words that you feel obliged to swallow and digest. The irony here is that the root of your suffering is your instinctive politeness, a personality trait that in any other situation you should have every reason to boast about.